It’s all too easy to assume that the other mum across the room from you has got it all together. How has she managed to straighten her hair and get her toddler to sit so patiently in the highchair. We always compare ourselves and it can often seem like another mum is doing it better. The truth is, we’re all in the same boat. Yes, we may have different circumstances – be it financial, cultural etc. However, we all have crap days – those days where you count down the hours until it’s their bedtime. Then you feel plagued with guilt as you watch them fall asleep – “she/he won’t be this little one day, I should make the most of this time, not wish it away”. Of course, we should all make the most of the time, but that doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to have crap days!
We all need to be more honest about how we feel – motherhood isn’t easy, but talking and laughing about those rubbish days makes it much easier. These are my very candid confessions of motherhood…
Sometimes I’d like to sit on the toilet without two eyes staring up at me or running the taps – I’d like to be able to take my time on the toilet… that luxury is long gone!
Some mornings I just sit in my PJ’s and let Molly watch 2 or 3 hours of TV because I just don’t have the energy – 6:30 is too early to parent..
When I’m in the car on my own (without Molly) I put my music up loud and convince myself that I’m Beyonce
A trip to the supermarket is often the highlight of my day – PEOPLE, I SEE PEOPLE… I SEE ADULTS! TALK TO ME BEFORE I LOSE MY MIND!
Some days I use half a can of dry shampoo and lashings of deodorant to disguise the fact I haven’t showered
I often use bribery to distract Molly from an almighty tantrum
I have briefly left the room when Molly has been screaming in her cot and refusing to sleep because I feel like my head is going to explode. Then I feel guilty for leaving the room so I have to go back in and cuddle her.
I have given Molly ice cream for her dinner on numerous occasions when she’s thrown what I’ve cooked her on the floor – probably not a good idea, but some days you do what you have to do.
I don’t do all of these things on one day, I promise!! However, I know I’m not alone with these confessions – I hear so many mums say similar things. Some days are hard, some days are brilliant and you question why you get stressed.. All in all, it’s still the best job in the world and we love our children more than anything, but it’s OK to talk about those crappy days and have a moan. We’re only human after all.